The Hidden Cost of Carrying Other People’s Chaos — Part 3

Are You Done Running the Emotional Labor Department Yet?

I hope so.

There’s a moment every single person in this pattern reaches—
sometimes quietly, sometimes in flames—
when they realize:

I’m not failing.
I’m just done running the emotional labor department.

This isn’t about “stronger boundaries.”
This is: I’m not doing this job anymore.

Here’s the straight-up truth:

You weren’t being “helpful.”
You were managing adults.

Taking on labor that wasn’t yours.
Stabilizing other people’s chaos.
Running emotional logistics.
Field-regulating grown humans who were perfectly capable of regulating themselves.
(Litmus test: would they do it in front of their boss? Exactly.)

And that role blocks genius—
not because you’re weak or broken,
but because your system was hijacked into management mode.

And management mode never leaves space for the life you actually came here to build.

Of course you stalled.

Not because your vision was unrealistic,
but because your nervous system was already doing another job.

Maybe not full-time—but always on call.
Always subject to chaotic interruptions,
asked to drop everything,
to shift your plans,
to abandon your rhythm, your care, your future.

And the hinge—the actual hinge—
is not becoming better at managing.
It’s no longer doing that job.

That’s the pivot.
That’s the portal.

Because when you stop absorbing their grown-up work,
your intelligence—your primal life force—comes back online.
Your capacity returns to your body, mind, and spirit.
And the future you ache for finally becomes reachable.

Just naming it,
so you can stop thinking this was ever a personal flaw.

— Lori

P.S. What is this wild treachery?!
You’d almost think you’re a human being deserving of devoted care and safekeeping. (!)
Of course you are.

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